Marlon Gibson Lost 240 Lbs (Is There a Recruitment Lesson There?)

May 22nd, 2013

by Josh Orendi

Marlon Gibson is a big name in the fraternity/sorority world. He is currently at Georgia State and has been serving the fraternal movement for a long time. Marlon used to be a big man, literally. Today he is not only a dedicated advocate for Greek Life but he is an inspiration to thousands after losing 240 lbs!  Here is his story: READ THIS .

Three lessons were shouting at me from this great article:

1. Marlon partnered with a COACH to walk the long journey with him.  That is what all championship teams and top performers do to become their very best.

2. Marlon did nottry to "rush" the weight off in 2 weeks. He eliminated nearly 250 lbs in 30 months by making DAILY choices. He uses words like "religiously … lifestyle … new me" to describe HOW he did it.

3. Marlon started with a powerful WHY. The love he has for his wife and desire to raise a family with her created a turning point and fuels his daily commitment.

- Do you have a recruitment coach ?
- Do you have a daily routine … a recruitment system ?
- Do you know your recruitment WHY ?

These are questions that drive real, sustainable change. That is true for individuals with big life goals (like Marlon) and its true for organizations that want to get bigger to do more good. Whether its time to grow or time to shrink, today is the best day to get started.

*Special thanks to Marlon for giving us permission to share this story and the lessons found within. Fun note: The coach who works with Marlon is another fraternal friend who used to do fraternity expansion for Sigma Phi Epsilon.

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Fraternity Summer Recruitment Collection

May 6th, 2013

This is a collection of results-driving summer recruitment resources from Phired Up Productions. The summer is an incredible opportunity to build meaningful relationships with incoming students.  Those relationships, when properly managed, can result in a high quantity of high quality men joining your chapter (before school even starts on some campuses).

Summer Recruitment Lessons

Lesson 1: Do Summer Recruitment
The first lesson learned is simple: you should do SOMETHING in the summer to drive recruitment results if you want to truly recruit the highest quantity of the highest quality members. Many organizations simply do not do summer recruitment. Recruitment efforts over the summer are often found in the big Midwest schools, schools in some Southern areas, and toward the west coast. For whatever reason, the cultures of these fraternity (and rarely sorority) communities has evolved to not only partake in, but often depend upon summer recruitment to build their membership for the upcoming year. Typically the focus is on recruiting incoming freshmen before they even get to campus so that they can move directly into housed chapters, though we do know of some schools, like Gettysburg College, that uses the summer to build relationships with second year students because of a deferred recruitment process.

Whatever the situation, and wherever your school is located, we would recommend exploring summer recruitment as an opportunity to build some early relationships when many chapters on your campus might not be doing anything with regard to recruitment. Since "Quantity Drives Quality," the more relationships you have over going into the school year, the better CHANCE you have to recruit the quality and quantity of members you desire.

Even if it seems impossible, impractical, or just plain weird to recruit people over the summer, whether you are a fraternity or sorority, BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS during the summer with non-Greek or incoming students can be greatly beneficial. Without the distractions of classes, other organizations, dorm life, etc., the summer offers a great opportunity to develop some friendships (a.k.a. leads) with fellow or future students in your town, neighboring communities, over social media , and through service, leadership, or athletic activities. Do something over the summer to keep your year-round values-based recruitment momentum going.

Lesson 2: Quantity Drives Quality (even in the summer)
"You can not recruit who you do not know," and this is true even in summer recruitment. The first step to a successful summer recruitment is building a comprehensive plan for MEETING PROSPECTS. Some typical strategies for this include: 1) Prospecting Calls, 2) High School Visits, 3) Summer Fairs and Conferences, 4) Leadership Retreats, 5) Service Events, 6) Social Networking Media (Facebook, Twitter, etc.), and 7) Partnering with the School to Position Your Members. You can learn more about all of these ideas by reading the "6 Cylinders " handouts Phired Up uses in its Dynamic Recruitment Workshops (search through for the summer ideas).

Many, if not most, successful summer-recruiting-chapters spend a lot of effort making "cold calls" during the summer by telephoning incoming freshman students from a list distributed to them by the university. There are some obvious inherent problems in cold calling as a recruitment tactic for fraternities and sororities - the most obvious of which is that you seem like a disreputable telemarketer trying to sell lifelong friendship and a commitment to values ‐ in other words, you seem like a cult leader trying to recruit people by interrupting their dinner with a badly scripted phone call. Plus every other chapter on campus might be calling the same kid at the same time and that probably turns more people off of Greek Life as a whole at these schools than anyone could possibly imagine.

However,prospecting calls is where most of the best results come from for many summer recruiting chapters — so, if you do choose to do "cold calls," do them well.  There are pages and pages to write on the subject of how to do a good fraternity/sorority recruitment cold call over the summer (and there are more related resources below) but for the sake of brevity, here are some quick tips.

1) Be friendly, genuine, and helpful. Practice with your members for a while first to work the "cheeziness" or "sales-y-ness" out of your approach. Remember, people can hear whether you are smiling or not, and they want to talk with happy people. Most importantly" call with something of value to offer them" a scholarship opportunity, a service event in their town, a leadership retreat you are hosting, or just help from a friendly upperclassman. Call for two simple reasons" to help them, and to build trust for a future call or meeting" do not cold call to recruit (recruitment comes later)!

2) Know your call objectives and talking points. Have a script/talking points that you have practiced. Know what you want to get out of the call (objectives ). Here are some sample objectives: A) Be a welcoming, helpful student from your school, B) Introduce the scholarship opportunity (or something of value to them), C)Learn more about the person, and be interested in him, D) Set up a time to meet soon, E) Leave with a positive, non-threatening perception of what people in your organization are like.

3) Fail your way to success. Look forward to having people hang up on you. Be excited when someone tells you to stop calling them. Celebrate when someone tells you to do things to yourself that are anatomically impossible! The more failed prospecting calls you make, the more chance you have of building a huge list of prospective members. Cold calling is a numbers game. You will find some success, but it will be buried beneath a lot of disappointing hang-ups, caller-ID blocks, and disinterested people on the other end of the line. The more bad calls you happen upon though, the better the chance the next call will be a huge success.

Lesson 3: Think Small Activities
If you got a call in the May following your senior year of high school from someone purporting to be a frat guy who said, "Hi, I am from Alpha Beta Gamma fraternity at the college you are coming to. Me and my brothers are doing this awesome camping trip this weekend deep in the woods. Would you like to come and learn more about our brotherhood?" How would you react? I would imagine that banjo music from the movie Deliverance along with a clear image of how these frat guys were going to show me their "brotherhood" utilizing some rituals and paddles deep in the woods, and then I would hang up on the guy. Your big summer recruitment events and outings are probably a blast for you and your brothers, but for the "best freshmen in the new class," these are events to be avoided for personal safety reasons if nothing else!

Chapters we have worked with over the summer have used trial and error to learn that better relationships are built with potential members through (small activities ) dinner, coffee, lunch, etc. with just a few members than are built at big fraternity recruitment events. If you are going to have summer recruitment functions as a chapter, think about using them for "closing" opportunities as opposed to early relationship building. Focus on small activities - lots and lots of small activities with lots and lots of potential members so that you can really get to know these people in comfortable settings.

For other relationship building opportunities during the summer, consider: 1) Partnering with the university to offer house tours during orientation, 2) Offer to take parents and student out to breakfast before their day of summer orientation, or 3) Make home visits to the best prospects so that mom and dad can see how great members of your chapter are.

Lesson 4: Mules Are on the Beach
I wish I could say that during the summer the apathetic members of your chapters get energized and are willing to make cold calls, help with recruitment activities, and actively build relationships with tons of incoming students. But they do not. And they probably will not no matter what you do. Get over it. Gather the "workhorses" of your chapter, and get to work. The "mules" of your chapter are on the beach, making excuses, taking vacation (all summer long), saying they "need a break," or they just plain disappear entirely out of communication for the whole summer. Get over it. Get to work.

Overall, the most challenging part of running a successful summer recruitment effort is managing the chapter when many of your members are spread out around the region, state, country and sometimes world. There are not easy answers to figure this out, just questions for you to consider.

Who will call prospects? How will the chapter know who is doing what and what results they are getting? Who will be at recruitment functions? How will names get added to the master names list? How will multiple chapter members get to know prospects in far away places?

A vital conversation to have as you are planning for summer recruitment should be about membership selection. Who will give out bids? On what authority? What is the measurable values-based selection criteria on which we will determine who deserves an invitation for membership? How will the chapter know who is being considered for a bid, who is getting a bid, who has gotten a bid, who accepted a bid, and who did not accept a bid? Are we o.k. with only a few members determining who will be invited for membership in our organization? Should we wait until the Fall to actually give out bids, and only build relationships during the summer?

Summer recruitment can be a great way to increase the quantity of quality members in your chapter, but it takes a comprehensive plan, strong focus on everyday behaviors, and a lot of stick-to-it-ness.

SUMMER RECRUITMENT: Three Phases

The biggest mistake I see fraternities make during summer recruitment is failing to develop relationships appropriately. Most groups dive right into asking potential members about fraternity before they even get to know them at all. In fact, I will often ask fraternity men how they first contact a potential member over the summer… They often respond with this “cold call script.”

“Hi I am Bobby from Alpha Beta Gamma Fraternity. Have you thought about fraternity life?”

Bobby, you interrupted my dinner, I do not know who you are, I barely know what a fraternity is, and why should I tell you what I have or have not thought about?! Oh, and by the way… yes, I have thought about fraternity life. I have thought about how fraternities are _____, _______, and ______. (you do not want to know what words they use to fill in the blanks!).

Instead of diving headfirst into “recruitment talk” with the strangers you are calling, try to slowly move them throughout the summer from 1) stranger, to 2) acquaintance, to 3) friend, to 4) Potential New Member, to 5) Fraternity man. You can not jump from 1 to 5. Do not treat a 1 or a 2 like a 3 or a 4. Develop the relationship.

Many successful chapters think of the summer in three phases.

Phase 1: Prospecting (May 1-June 1)

Phase 1 is filled with prospecting cold calls, Facebook prospecting, and high school visits. The objective in Phase 1 is to get the opportunity to meet (face-to-face) as many incoming students as possible. Use the sample cold call scripts we provide to reach out to as many people as possible during this phase. Do high school visits to the top 20 feeder high schools for your college. Build Facebook groups for incoming students. Try every technique you can to simply get an opportunity to meet face-to-face with potential members. Your calls and presentations should not yet be about fraternity recruitment. Instead, offer the incoming students you are talking to something of value to them (i.e., scholarship, service opportunity, leadership program, advice for incoming students/parents, networking event, etc.). Use that “something of value” to open the door to a potential future relationship.

Phase 2: (June 1-July 1)

Phase 2 is about building friendships through small, normal, unintimidating activities. Your job here is just to hang out with potential members in really simple, really friendly, really easy activities. Think: dinner, coffee, lunch, pick-up-sports in their town, dinner, coffee, lunch, dinner, coffee, lunch (oh, did I say those already?!). The objective of Phase 2 is to honestly just get to know these people. Sure, everyone will probably know that you are doing fraternity recruitment, but there is no need to be high pressure during this phase. Some organizations will choose to take an aggressive approach and propose a life-changing opportunity (fraternity membership) during this phase — which is not a bad idea at all, but most high quality potential members will need a lot of information before they can make a commitment over the summer… after all, they probably have not even been on campus yet!

Note on Parents: This phase of the summer recruitment process is a great time to focus on parents.  They are an important decision maker/influence on whether or not your prospect chooses to join.  Great chapters recognized that summer recruitment might be 30% about the potential members, and 70% about the parents.  Talk their language. Connect them with your parents. Recognize that they are looking for you to demonstrate (not just talk about) responsible behavior that will help their child become successful.  Your website, mailing materials, home visits, and phone calls should all be prepared with parents deeply in mind.

Phase 3: Pre-Closing/Closing (July 1-First Day of Fall Classes)

During Phase 3, there is no doubt that fraternity recruitment is happening. In fact, this is the time (and I might argue that not UNTIL now) to do summer fraternity recruitment events (lake house, barbecue, baseball game, float/rafting trip, paintball, etc.). These events offer an opportunity to introduce your now friends to the fraternity. Most of your members should probably know the potential members by now, and the events or outings will be natural, fun, and comfortable for everyone. During this phase, ASK! Either pre-close (If we were to ask you to join, what would you say? ), or after you have pre-closed, go ahead and try to close the deal!

5 Quick Summer Recruitment Tips

  1. Summer Recruitment starts in the winter !
  2. Meet the Parents. Recruit his mom and the man will follow. There is no substitute for meeting in person, especially at his home with his parents.
  3. Scholarships are smart . For bonus points open them up to women, sophomores, and transfers. Remember the end goal is to meet great people qualified for membership. Sometimes that happens through a referral from a scholarship candidate.
  4. Piggyback. Leverage school events like orientation, move in, RA training, tours, summer classes, etc. Ask how you can help departments like admissions, new student services, housing, etc.
  5. Pipelines & video chat. It  is no secret that chapters that consistently dominate recruitment have a pipeline such as an area high school, specific sports team, or certain major. Thanks to Skype & Google Hang Out, pipelines just got a lot longer. Now you can build relationships over the summer with incoming students who live several states away — even a continent or two away. Technology makes personal summer recruitment possible for groups of students who have traditionally been ignored.

Summer Recruitment for Fraternities (4 Part Series)

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Our friend Alex Carrick, a past consultant for Phi Delta Theta Fraternity wrote a four part series of blogs for fraternities about SUMMER RECRUITMENT .  He did a fantastic job (and there are lots of hints that he’s a Dynamic Recruitment fan spread throughout the blogs.  We wanted to make sure we shared these great summer recruitment tips with all our readers.  Thanks Alex for letting us share your great ideas!

Part 1
Think about it. Summer is the perfect time to get a head start before the thought of recruitment crosses other chapter’s collective minds. If you have never done summer recruitment it may feel a little bit strange. The goal of this series of blog posts is to take out the guess work and give you a path to follow.  Read more here .

Part 2
After covering the basics, the next step is to set up the structure that will propel your chapter to success in summer recruitment. Remember that the key to recruitment is making friends. Therefore the foundation for your summer recruitment plan should be to create opportunities to build relationships. Crazy right?  Read more here .

Part 3
After creating a flawless Summer Recruitment foundation there’s only one question left: where do you find people? Here’s a couple strategies: Read more here.

Part 4
Hopefully at this point you have executed a successful Summer Recruitment program and have numerous guys signed before they step on campus (assuming that it’s within the rules). The real magic happens once those men you recruited turn around and start recruiting for you. Read more here .

SUMMER RECRUITMENT: Scholarships

Recruitment Scholarships

Phired Up has written a lot about the overwhelming success of the Recruitment Scholarship as a tactic to drive names onto an your Names List. Here is blog post that describes that idea in detail. That post also includes a link to a free sample recruitment scholarship application that you can edit and use for your group immediately.

This is the best example of an IFC community doing summer-focused recruitment scholarships that we””””ve seen (University of Iowa).

SUMMER RECRUITMENT: Call Scripts

Summer Calling Scripts: During summer recruitment for many fraternities, prospecting calls are an important component of their recruitment plan. Phired Up recruitment experts have written two sample scripts for use during those calls. These scripts can be downloaded here .

Prospecting calls (or "cold calls") are really only acceptable in the summer when there is no other way to get access to incoming students. It is important to focus on the objectives of these calls. The call is NOT A RECRUITMENT CALL. It is a call to a) come across as a helpful student, and b) get an opportunity to meet the person face-to-face.

Here are some tips for prospecting calls (these were originally from an E-mail that we had written to a student who asked for advice on summer cold calls)

1. Be Friendly and Genuine — No surprise there, I know, but it is important to practice talking with a smile on your face and MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY, actually call with the intention of helping someone. If you are calling with a generous, charitable attitude, that will come through on the call and they’ll be more receptive to you.

2. Know Your Talking Points and Call Objectives — Know why you are calling, and have a list of clear talking points that you  have PRACTICED. I cannot emphasize this enough, practice makes perfect.3. Call with "Something of Value" to Offer — This is key. When you are making these calls you need a legitimate reason to be calling, and that reason should not be to benefit you. Offer a scholarship, service opportunity, tour of campus, invitation to a welcome lunch, etc. Have a reason to call, and offer the person you are calling something of value to them.

4. Get a Time to Meet — You are not closing any deals over the phone. A cold call is meant to set up a time to meet again soon.

5. Get Permission for Further Contact — “Is it cool if I connect with you on facebook?” “Can I send you an E-mail with a link to the scholarship application?” You get the idea.

6. Failure is Like a Drug — People WILL HANG UP ON YOU. People WILL GET MAD AT YOU. Love it, need it, bathe in rejection. If you let a failed call get you jacked up for making the next call a success, the rest of this will be a lot easier

More Resources

Pi Kappa Alpha Summer Recruitment Captain Job Description

Alpha Gamma Rho Summer Recruitment Outline

Chi Psi Blog "7 Ways To Take Your Summer Recruitment To The Next Level "

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Recruitment is Entirely a Relationship Business

May 1st, 2013

by Matt Mattson

Frequency of Contact I often open my Dynamic Recruitment training programs with this simple but powerful statement. "Recruitment is entirely a relationship business."  I hope that people leave our Phired Up programs deeply believing this statement is true.  I think I have mostly been trying to just teach this simple truth for 10 years now… and I will keep doing so.

I believe we all show up at college wanting two things: We want to be LOVED and we want to MATTER.  Fraternity and sorority members do not often talk about their prospective members (or themselves) that way, but I believe it to be deeply true. This is the gift that fraternal membership offers to college students — we love them and help them find a way to matter.

These two things (being loved and mattering) are keys to feeling personally fulfilled throughout life, but especially for those students just entering college. I tell the story often of how I missed that "small group of friends I had back in High School" during my first week as a freshman at GVSU way back in 1996.  Do you remember your small group of friends you had in High School?  They were more than friends. They were home.  They made you feel loved (even if you did not talk about it that way). As students enter college for the first time, many of them act on a basic instinct — to find "home" again. To find a small group of people to make them feel loved.

But most college students (especially the highest performing) need more than friends. They want to matter. They want to find their place in the world.  Many experiment with different personalities: ask me sometime about my terribly tacky earring, my hemp jewelry hippie phase, and ill-fitting clothes/bad haircut choices hip hop phase — all of those were me trying to find the place where I mattered. It turns out it was not about the costume choices for me, it was about a guiding set of values and a group of people who followed when I led.

See, the only way to help a prospective member get those two things - love and mattering - is through relationships. Personal connection, vulnerability, curious questions that unlock personal truths, caring. It is an almost entirely emotional process. Recruitment all about relationships.

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Recruit Like a Warrior (Values-Based)

April 30th, 2013

by Matt Mattson

Have you ever talked to a military recruiter?  Me too.  They are really good.  They have to be… they are charged with building the fiercest fighting force in the world. They are challenged to find the bravest amongst us to go become heroes. They are required to RECRUIT people to volunteer to put themselves in the line of fire for the good of our nation.

That is a tough job. I would think your organization might want to learn a thing or two about how they do it.

Good news. They wrote down how they do it. There are about 1,000 things I want to write about after having read this a couple of times. That link goes to the United States Army Recruiter Handbook .

I think today, I will ll focus on chapter 4. Particularly the bit on VALUES-BASED RECRUITMENT on page 15. That seems relevant to our readers, eh?

"Members of a recruiting unit must demonstrate Army values, live the Warrior Ethos, and do so in full view of the community in which they serve."

That is some good stuff right there.

You want to recruit like one of the highest performing recruiting organizations in the world? Start by living your own organizational values and "Warrior Ethos" every day and in full view of the community you serve.  High quality people are attracted to high quality stuff.  Be high quality. Get high quality.

I think I will come back to this recruiter handbook in the future for more blogs. Meanwhile, I encourage you to click the link above and learn directly from the source.

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Recruitment Events Are Good

April 30th, 2013

by Matt Mattson

I have spent a lot of time over the last 10+ years poking fun at fraternity/sorority recruitment events. There is a section in our books on "eventitis."  We teach in our programs the absurdity of recruitment strategies centered around large-scale recruitment events when our human nature is to actually socialize in very small groups. I have dozens of stories about terrible recruitment and "rush" events that I have gathered and shared many times over the years.

But the thing is…

Recruitment events really are not that bad. In fact, they are good.

You heard me right. I said it. One of the inventors of Dynamic Recruitment just admitted that recruitment events are good.

Of course, I am going to explain myself a bit…  Recruitment events are very good at what they are designed for. Most (all?) recruitment events are meant to share the feeling and power of a large group of people on the same team doing something together . It is a cool feeling. Think about some big event you did with your chapter recently… remember the feeling of accomplishment, grandeur, and the power of a bunch of people doing the same thing at the same time? It is fun, exhilarating, and memory-making.         IF YOU FEEL LIKE A PART OF THE GROUP.     On the other hand, if you aree an outsider, someone who still lacks personal connections to any members, a visitor, a guest, or anyone who is not already a part of the group, it is like being a spectator… it might be enjoyable, but it is not you .

Recruitment events are for people who already know you and your friends (read: members).  If you think about recruitment as a relationship process, events come toward the end. Events are perfect for when a prospective member already feels like they are a "part of your group."

Do events. Fine. Have a blast. But DO NOT PUT YOUR EVENTS AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROCESS WITH PROSPECTS.  Go make friends, build relationships, introduce your new friends to all of your friends in normal ways, THEN go ahead and have an event together so that they can feel the exhilaration and power of a group of like-minded people doing something cool together in a big way.

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What Is Your Pitch?

March 22nd, 2013

by Matt Mattson

At Phired Up Productions, WE GROW GROUPS. We believe that organizations have the power to change the world, and if we help good, cause-based organizations grow, then we matter to the world. We teach group leaders the art and science of organizational growth.

What do you do?

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Connection Through Curiosity

March 22nd, 2013

by Vince Fabra

The path to deeper personal connection is curiosity, not commonality.

Far too often in conversation we will say or hear someone say, “Oh my god! Me too.” Then, the story or anecdote will follow that loosely relates to what was previously said. Here is an example.

“So, when I was in 7th grade, I broke my arm…” she says.
“Oh my god! Me too,” he replies.
“That’s so crazy!” she says.
“I know, right?!” he agrees.

This is a natural conversation habit. Most people do this not to “1-UP” or try to impress, but to try and find connection. We are so excited that we have something to contribute to the conversation that we cannot wait to let the person or group know that we have a similar experience.

Commonality is fine, but how would that same “broken arm” conversation look when curiosity replaces commonality.

“So, when I was in 7th grade, I broke my arm…” she says.
“Oh my god! How did it happen?” he asks.
“Well, (INSERT INTERESTING STORY),” she explains.
“Golly, that was a crazy story,” he says. “What did you feel you gained from that experience?”
“Hmmm… I guess (INSERT PERSPECTIVE GAINED THROUGH DIFFICULT EXPERIENCE),” she says.
“Really cool. I also broke my arm in 7th grade,” he shares.
“Oh my god! Tell me more about that,” she requests.

In conversation, you will naturally feel the need to blurt “Oh my god! Me too!” That does not mean that you are hogging the conversation or that you love talking about yourself. Most times, it is an attempt to find a better conversation with a stranger, acquaintance or close friend. My challenge to you is to find that better conversation through curiosity. Replace your “OMG! ME 2”’s with curious questions and you will learn more, have better conversations and create stronger connections. Try it, tell me about your results and I will try my best to respond with curiosity instead of “Oh my god! Me too!”

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Situational Awareness

March 22nd, 2013

by Vince Fabra

Bill Murray Cover Situational awareness is an underrated piece of the lifestyle of Social Excellence. Using the context of a situation to drive the content of our conversation is a quick path to a strong connection.

Here are two stories, one about a phriend of Phired Up and one personal, that share how situational awareness can lead to meaningful relationships, powerful conversations and just better stories to share with friends.

Ian Lowe, Executive Director of Pi Lambda Phi, shared a fascinating story with me recently of how he used situational awareness to turn an ordinary moment into a meaningful relationship (“meaningful” is a sincere understatement).

While attending a professional conference, Ian Lowe found himself in an educational session sitting near a stranger. Waiting for the session to start, Ian wanted to talk to this person and was searching for the perfect way to strike up a quality conversation. Did he go with the old-fashioned “Hi, my names is…”? Nope. Did he do the overused name-tag peak and begin asking questions about name, school and position? Not this guy. He used some situational awareness and asked a great question. Noticing the situation, Ian leaned over and said, “Hi. So tell me why you chose this session.” This was the gateway to a great conversation, and this is also the story of how Ian met his fiancee, Christine. Ian and Christine’s story is one full of bold choices, fun memories and sacrifice, but it all started with situational awareness.

If you know anything about me, you know I love comedy. If you know anything about comedy, you know that for the better part of three decades, few have done it better than Bill Freakin’ Murray. With a little bit of situational awareness, I was able to meet one of my comedy heroes in a fun, unique way.

Flying out of my home in Charleston, SC, I was checking into my Delta flight as I turned and saw Bill Freakin’ Murray (Mr. Freakin’ Murray lives in Charleston when he’s not making movies). He was standing with a younger woman who was either family, a friend or an assistant. Stopping to take notice of the situation, I gathered a few things. She had bags, he did not and their conversation did not seem to be a pleasant one. Perhaps they were discussing a travel delay of hers or some other stressful matter. Situational awareness was telling me this was not the time to walk over, stick my hand out and say, “I’m a huge fan.” I had to think fast, because passing up on this chance would become a huge regret of mine. Then I remembered my ticket to a great conversation. In my backpack, I had an issue of GQ magazine. This particular issue had Bill Freakin’ Murray on the cover. I sat down in a chair in his direct eye line, I pulled out the magazine, and just stared at him. For about 60 nervous, anxious, heart pounding seconds, I waited for Mr. Murray to notice my ploy to get his attention. I saw his eyes recognize what I was holding, focus in on the picture and then notice me staring at him, realizing my goal to get his attention. He then stepped back and had a good laugh. He got the attention of the woman and pointed my way. I knew I was in. I walk/ran/sprinted over there, shook his hand and we began to have a conversation. We talked about his picture on the cover of GQ, the article inside, the Charleston comedy scene and my passion to be a comedian. We then parted ways, but not before I invited him to our weekly open mic, and if you’ve heard any stories about Bill Freakin Murray, he just might drop in one of these days.

Every moment is a choice. We can choose to say nothing or say something. And if we choose to say something, we can choose to notice our situation and use it to our advantage. Who knows what will happen? You may meet your future spouse, your childhood idol or you might just grow your organization through meaningful relationships.

Choose to say something and choose to say the right thing using situational awareness.

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Purposeful Networking

March 15th, 2013

Jessica Gendron Williams was recently published in Essentials , a monthly educational e-newsletter provided to members of the Association of Fraternity/Sorority Advisors (AFA).  The article was titled, "Purposeful Networking" and can be found here

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Stop Planning Recruitment Events

March 8th, 2013

by Vince Fabra

Have you ever heard that expression “Work smart not hard”?

When I work with fraternity men, at least the ones who choose to work at all, they seem to be hard workers when it comes to recruitment. They are planning recruitment events, inviting potential new members to the events, furiously calling and texting their brothers to make sure they are coming to the event, grabbing ice, manning the barbecue pit, talking to guys, GOING CRAZY BECAUSE YOUR CHAPTER BROTHERS ARE EATING ALL THE FREE FOOD AND TALKING TO EACH OTHER. Let’s get smart!

Planning recruitment events sucks.

My suggestion: Part 1. Stop planning recruitment events. It takes so much time, a lot of money (depending on the event) and requires that all of your brothers pitch in and help out (“I think I just saw a unicorn”).

My suggestion: Part 2. Start going to events planned by other people. Every campus has a Campus Activities Council that plans fun and free events for students on their campus. It might be a comedian, a musician, a game show, a video game tournament, a lecture on an interesting topic, or any other event that you probably ignored this semester. The Campus Activities Council is always looking to reach more students with their programming, and you are tired of running yourself ragged by planning and executing your own events. HMMM…! How about you just hitch your wagon to their wheel? Meaning, invite people from the names list, not to your chapter house for the fun event, but to the student union/quad/dorm/auditorium for a free night of fun.

Also, you know all of those brotherhood, service, social, philanthropy, your exoteric rituals and intramurals that already fill your calendar? Those are great opportunities to invite people with whom you have a mutual interest. The best way for potential joiners to learn about the organization is by witnessing the organization in a realistic group setting. Rather than standing around on your back deck eating hamburgers and hotdogs, with every member asking every potential new member “Where ya from,” “What’s your major,” “Did you play any sports in high school,” show them what fraternity looks like in a real way.

Pretty soon you can stop planning recruitment events, wasting time and money and you’ll be working smart not hard.

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